Well I am very socially awkward if i am actually trying to start any form of real relationship i.e. if its business or I am unlikely to see again I small talk with the best of them but that is as much of a lie as a customer service smile. I have set up profiles on 4 different dating sites (even paying for some) and despite getting likes I cant bring myself to initiate a conversation. It comes down to the fact i can not find a single way to message someone that is not instantly dishonest. Honesty is extremely important to me as I am not searching for someone to hook up with or date casually I am looking for someone to love and marry. That said time to be a jerk and list auto rejections : Smokers , Drug users , non-Christians (faith is important to me), photo filters ( they are a lie when used with people trying to get to know you) , very heavy people (I am not skinny by any means myself but people who cant take care of themselves are a no), and much to my shame anyone who wants me to speak first sorry if your not in danger then you have to be the extrovert. And now for my goals simply to find love get married and have kids most every thing else is just to make that experience as easy and comfortable as I can.